I can not relate to your situation as I lived outside NY in NJ for years, and only traveled to San Fran. I was surprised by your line ... asking a Gay to live in a red state. I live in SC, a red state. All of my gay friends never express to me hostility or things that make them feel uncomfortable. Sure, there is always a homophobe, but I find most people in SC are welcoming to all people.
Well stated. Perhaps you will get the chance to experience a “flyover” “deplorables” State. Much of what you have found in NYC is prevalent in wide swaths of America.
Sorry about your experience in SF, it really sucks to feel like people think of you as evil or dumb in a place you used to call home. Even though you moved on, I'm sure it's still painful sometimes. As a former SF resident too, I think you've been brave for speaking your mind all these years. A lot of people there strongly oppose the other side without actually understanding it, this is what is tragic about deeply blue cities. Those trying to depict other as stupid, racist, bad etc... for the made up stories they've told themselves often are the truly evil ones.
One thing I'm curious if you have thoughts about- what surprised me about the monoculture in San Francisco is that so many people there come from many different backgrounds and cultures, yet publicly mostly all accept the same viewpoints. Whether they've been in the city for 10 years or 3 months, it seems like there is very little dissidents outside of mostly those who have nothing to lose. The simple answer I've heard is that this breed of liberalism comes from "being educated" but that is a pretty silly explanation. What I've observed is some social pressure people there perpetuate, and maybe some hardliners in HR departments of bigger companies that hire a large portion of the workforce, but I'd be curious to hear what you think explains this.
I can not relate to your situation as I lived outside NY in NJ for years, and only traveled to San Fran. I was surprised by your line ... asking a Gay to live in a red state. I live in SC, a red state. All of my gay friends never express to me hostility or things that make them feel uncomfortable. Sure, there is always a homophobe, but I find most people in SC are welcoming to all people.
Well stated. Perhaps you will get the chance to experience a “flyover” “deplorables” State. Much of what you have found in NYC is prevalent in wide swaths of America.
Sorry about your experience in SF, it really sucks to feel like people think of you as evil or dumb in a place you used to call home. Even though you moved on, I'm sure it's still painful sometimes. As a former SF resident too, I think you've been brave for speaking your mind all these years. A lot of people there strongly oppose the other side without actually understanding it, this is what is tragic about deeply blue cities. Those trying to depict other as stupid, racist, bad etc... for the made up stories they've told themselves often are the truly evil ones.
One thing I'm curious if you have thoughts about- what surprised me about the monoculture in San Francisco is that so many people there come from many different backgrounds and cultures, yet publicly mostly all accept the same viewpoints. Whether they've been in the city for 10 years or 3 months, it seems like there is very little dissidents outside of mostly those who have nothing to lose. The simple answer I've heard is that this breed of liberalism comes from "being educated" but that is a pretty silly explanation. What I've observed is some social pressure people there perpetuate, and maybe some hardliners in HR departments of bigger companies that hire a large portion of the workforce, but I'd be curious to hear what you think explains this.